Post by Ruiha on Feb 13, 2015 22:06:32 GMT -8
Valentine's Day isn't all lovey dovey and stuff. Sometimes it can be a time of extreme loneliness, especially if you've been rejected or if you're recalling that loneliness and heartache.
Here are some tips by George Dvorsky of io9 to help you recover from those symptoms:
1. Understand and acknowledge the fact that you're going to experience a wide range of emotions — and it doesn't matter if you were the one dumped or if it was you who instigated the break-up
2. Take care of yourself: be sure to get plenty of good quality sleep, eat well, and exercise
3. Avoid binge drinking, abusing drugs, and having revenge sex
4. Don't stalk or threaten your ex-partner
5. Socialize with others who can provide positive support
6. Don't be afraid to seek professional help to assist you in working through the break-up; as Dr. Xiaomeng says, "there's no need to isolate yourself and go it alone."
7. It's normal to not feel like yourself. A loss of self-concept is a natural part of the healing process
8. To rebuild your self-identity, rediscover what makes you happy and what defines you as an individual without your ex-partner; think of it as an opportunity for re-growth
9. Focus on the positive aspects of the break-up, such as having a fresh start, re-engaging with hobbies you used to do, and so on. Focus on positive feelings, such as relief, freedom, optimism, and empowerment
10. Engage in writing and speaking exercises in which you clearly articulate your deepest thoughts and positive feelings about the relationship that ended
11. Don't be scared of a "rebound" relationship — but be damned sure you're getting into it for the right reasons
12. If your partner starts dating someone else, give them space and respect the new relationship. As Dr. Lewandowski told me, "it's important to remember that your former partner is someone you used to care about greatly (and perhaps still do), so you should do what you would for any other friend and wish him or her the best."
13. Appreciate the fact that a lot of what's going on is neurological and there's only so much you can do to cope
14. Give yourself time to heal
Excerpt from: io9 - The Best Way To Recover From A Break-Up — According To Science
Here are some tips by George Dvorsky of io9 to help you recover from those symptoms:
1. Understand and acknowledge the fact that you're going to experience a wide range of emotions — and it doesn't matter if you were the one dumped or if it was you who instigated the break-up
2. Take care of yourself: be sure to get plenty of good quality sleep, eat well, and exercise
3. Avoid binge drinking, abusing drugs, and having revenge sex
4. Don't stalk or threaten your ex-partner
5. Socialize with others who can provide positive support
6. Don't be afraid to seek professional help to assist you in working through the break-up; as Dr. Xiaomeng says, "there's no need to isolate yourself and go it alone."
7. It's normal to not feel like yourself. A loss of self-concept is a natural part of the healing process
8. To rebuild your self-identity, rediscover what makes you happy and what defines you as an individual without your ex-partner; think of it as an opportunity for re-growth
9. Focus on the positive aspects of the break-up, such as having a fresh start, re-engaging with hobbies you used to do, and so on. Focus on positive feelings, such as relief, freedom, optimism, and empowerment
10. Engage in writing and speaking exercises in which you clearly articulate your deepest thoughts and positive feelings about the relationship that ended
11. Don't be scared of a "rebound" relationship — but be damned sure you're getting into it for the right reasons
12. If your partner starts dating someone else, give them space and respect the new relationship. As Dr. Lewandowski told me, "it's important to remember that your former partner is someone you used to care about greatly (and perhaps still do), so you should do what you would for any other friend and wish him or her the best."
13. Appreciate the fact that a lot of what's going on is neurological and there's only so much you can do to cope
14. Give yourself time to heal
Excerpt from: io9 - The Best Way To Recover From A Break-Up — According To Science
and i will always continue to have fun ^w^
